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Does Size Matter?

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It’s an age-old question: does size really matter? Many men feel self-conscious about the size of their penis, believing that their partners would prefer a larger penis. In some cases, this insecurity can lead to body confidence problems and even challenges to having a healthy sex life. So is all that stress for no reason? The truth is that there’s no definitive answer about whether size does, in fact, matter. A lot of it comes down to personal preference. It seems, however, that fewer people actually care about size than all the hype would suggest.

Perception vs. Reality

Part of the problem is that many people believe an average penis to be bigger than it actually is. A study by Dr. Ed found that women believe an average penis measures 5.4 inches (13.7cm), and men believe it to be 5.6 inches (14.2 cm). In reality, the average penis length is about 5.2 inches (13.2 cm). This shows that both men and women believe penises tend to be longer than they actually are, and men in particular believe penises are larger. This can lead them to compare themselves to a perceived norm negatively. This is especially true when men see images of penises promoted in the media, such as pornography, where size is significantly above normal. Keeping the real average in mind can help to keep expectations more accurate.

What Straight Women Think

It’s hard to pin down precisely what women think about penis size because it varies a lot. In a small video survey by the website Cut, about one third of the respondents answered that size mattered to them. In a survey by Bustle, a little over half of the women said that size mattered to them.Some preferred longer penises because they liked to be stimulated farther back towards to cervix. Others had preferences for size that were more complicated than simply wanting a longer penis. A number of women mentioned that a penis that was too long could be painful. Others expressed that girth mattered more than length. Many other women emphasized that other factors mattered more to them than size. These included emotional connection, oral sex skills, kind of movement, and commitment to meeting the partner’s needs. In summary, different women are looking for different things, but there’s a lot more than length that matters.

What Gay Men Think

Like women, men are looking for different things when it comes to penis size. Many gay men seem to believe that a large size will be important to their partner, and size is a frequent discussion on dating sites and forums. Some men do have a strong preference for larger penises. Others say it’s a turn-on but doesn’t make much difference during sex itself. For some bottoms, a penis that’s too long can make sex painful. In the end, it comes down to personal preference. A lot of men emphasize that a personal connection, general attractiveness, and skill. In total, penis size is only going to be part of the package. 

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